I got to say, that learning to build and maintain good healthy human relationships, gives me an over abundance of spiritual needs.

From my personal experience; due to being born into a certain type of relationship, a relationship that is image based, where the image, no matter what the truth is, becomes most important. This causes the reality of the human and his needs to get neglected and rejected. Therefore the unconditional love a god offers is absolutely needed to fill that huge void. Or even a vengeful god to help right this terrible wrong.

This is what I believe a spiritual experience to be made of; a reconnection made with the over protected child that can be struggling to be free inside some, if not all of us. Thus we see, feel, hear, taste, something that unlocks those restraints. Music, art, food, sex, drugs, violence, etc.

Those initial restraints are put in place to please our teachers and role models. But we end up sacrificing our "soul" our own unique creative individual that we are born to be.

Socialization with disregard to the individual creates an intrinsic desire to be free. Depending on the nature of the social system
Depending on the individual in question, we react differently, some of us go into depression, some die from the inside out, some seek extreme pleasures, some attempt to destroy the body by denying it's very existence! Most in some way find blame outside for the pain, become victims of their own perpetuated crimes against themselves.

But to have the desire to live a good healthy life, can be uncomfortable if not impossible under these extreme conditions, when our community doesn't support you. A good first step is to change ones environment, that is after they decided what needs changing.
We don't choose our first environment in which we build are values.